How to Improve Relationships and Enjoy Them More.
How to Use Principles in the Family, in the Workplace,
and in Other Areas of Life for Your Benefit and the
Benefit of Others.
also,
How to Choose a Vocation, Become an Entrepreneur,
Get a Job and Handle a Job Interview
also,
How to Choose Volunteer Activities and Enjoy Them
also,
Fourteen Ways to Improve Board Meetings

CONTENTS

• Acknowledgements
  
  
  • Part I
• Relationships: An Overview
  
  

1. Lifemanship and Relationships
   
   
   • Part II
   How to Improve Personal and Family
   Relationships and Enjoy Them More
   
   
2. Listening
3. Active Listening with Children and Young People
4. Good Advice and Help
5. Don't Look for Someone to Blame Concentrate on Solutions
6. Do the Important, Not Just the Urgent
7. Accepting a Compliment
8. Planning a Special Occasion
9. What Are Your Goals and How Can I Help You to Achieve Them
10. Forgiveness
11. Conditional Love
12. The Family Inheritance
13. Anger as Control
14. Don't Let Someone Else Determine How You Feel or How You Treat Others
15. Praise
16. Expressing Gratitude
17. The Considerate Way to Communicate Bad News
18. Influencing Attitudes toward Work
19. Avoiding Controversies
20. Settling Disputes Using a Mediator
21. Answers Emerge
    
    
    • Part III
    How to Improve Relationships and
    Achieve Success in the Workplace
    
    
22. The Art of Negotiation
23. Solving the Problem One on One
24. Summarizing
25. Overcoming the Objection, "It's against Our Policy"
26. Motivating Others
27. Locating the Authority Who Can Help You
    
    
    • Part IV
    How to Choose a Vocation, Become an Entrepreneur,
    Get a Job and Handle an Interview
    
    
28. Choosing a Vocation
29. The Influence of Temperament in Vocational Choice
30. Becoming an Entrepreneur
31. "I've Just Got to Get a Job"
32. Interviewing for a Job
    
    
    • Part V
    How to Find Potential Employees and to Evaluate Them
    
    
33. Seeking Potential Employees
34. Evaluating Employee Applicants
    
    
    • Part VI
    How to Choose Volunteer Activities and Enjoy Them.
    How to Make Boards and Committees More Effective
    
    
35. Deriving Pleasure and Satisfaction from Volunteer Activities
36. Serving on a Board
37. Improving Boards and Board Meetings
38. The Search Committee
    
    
    • Part VII
    How to Share Success and Motivation
    
    
39. Sharing Success
40. Valuable Lessons
41. My Belief and Motivation

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

his book was written with the help of what could be called a Committee.  The contributions of eight people were such that they deserve more than the usual expression of gratitude, or dedication of a book.

First is my wife Rubie.  It is great to have a personal counselor in life, and it is most convenient if that counselor is also your very compatible roommate.  My five children, four daughters and a son, now all adults, take active parts in the book.  You will recognize them because their first names all begin with "B".  My loyal friend Dotty Palmintier, who runs my office, is fortunately an expert in grammar and spelling.  And how can you do better than a sister, Helen Wagner, who, as a university English teacher, has corrected thousands of themes?

I sincerely asked the committee to be very forthright in criticisms of grammar, spelling, and especially content.  And they were.  A misused word was circled with "Ugh" written beside it.  In another place a marginal note stated, "There's too much going on here."  (There was.)  But they also made very helpful and constructive suggestions, positive in nature, not just corrective.

More than anything, they were encouragers, and for this I am very grateful.  Encouragement is an important subject in this book.

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